Super Brain Blog – Season 3 Episode 9
Super Brain Blog – Season 3 Episode 9
Difficult Decisions with Mark Cagney
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In this episode I take a deep dive into the life and brain of one of Ireland’s most respected broadcasters, Mark Cagney. In this the first of a two-parter, we talk about , running away from home, family rifts, the tragic loss of his young wife and making difficult decisions.
During this episode we discuss
- His life growing up in Cork
- Running away from home as a teen
- Family rifts
- The tragic loss of his young wife Anne when he was 34
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Mark Cagney is one if Ireland’s most respected broadcaster best known for presenting Ireland AM for twenty years
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Transcript
Sabina Brennan 00:51
We couldn’t call each other friends we don’t know each other, actually, really the
occasions we’ve met is I’m normally in the chair that you’re in. So you’ve interviewed me a
few times on a few occasions for Ireland AM. TV show that you led for 20 years. And then
more recently, you’ve interviewed me on the radio on Newstalk. But remotely, because
we’re in lockdown. Your voice is unique. You have a wonderful voice for radio, I remember
back, I’m of that age. I remember pirate radio stations. For listeners who are quite young
here, you might not be aware, but sort of when I was growing up, you had the boring sort
of RTE, the national radio station. And then you could tune into radio Luxembourg, for the
charts to hear some pop music. And then there was suddenly this explosion of pirate radio
stations, which was, it just was so anarchic. At the time, it was just really, really exciting to
be hearing this, it just felt so new. And this is back at a time where we didn’t have internet,
we, Ireland was very much a small island, nobody came to do pop concerts here. You
know everything we ate up everything that Well, I certainly did, in terms of music from
magazines, or you know, other channels. And this was really new, and you were one of the
first.
Mark Cagney 02:19
Yeah, it’s an interesting, culturally, the country is so different, it may as well be another
planet, Sabina, it’s very hard to explain. I mean It’s hard to explain to our kids now what
life was like before smartphones, to explain to them what it was like before satellites and
multi channel TV. It’s like trying to explain to somebody who has never seen a black and
white photograph what it actually is, but without being able to show them. If you were a
child of the 50s, as I was born in ’56. Obviously, I didn’t live through the birth of rock and
roll. But I would have been aware of it. And more importantly, I would have been aware of
the effects of what it did, culturally to kids, it was a total rebellion, against their norms, in
terms of the music, in terms of the fashion that went with it in terms of the literature and
the writing that went with it as well. So we thought about the world and our place in the
world in a totally different way to the way that our parents would have and our parents
would have had their lives pretty well mapped out for them by their parents and our
parents, parents were Victorian, would have been born in the late 1900 (sic), early part of
the century. And again, even with the benefit of history it’s very hard for us to understand
what that would have been like but Ireland, and I suppose the world, but also later than
most other parts of it because we are basically a rock, a remote rock off the west coast of
Europe,. Technicolor came to us quite late. And we were getting it in dribs and drabs. We
were getting it in magazines. We were getting it in radio stations, like Luxembourg or radio
North Sea and it would waft in and out and depending what the weather was, you might
get it or not. So you read about this Technicolor world of youth and music and fashion and
all that went with it. You had very few physical examples of it. So I came from, I came up
through that generation, then obviously, people on the east coast of Ireland had BBC and
a bear in mind that
Sabina Brennan 04:14
We had. So I was born in ’62. So a few years, you know, but it’s around the same sort
because as you say, it was kind of slow, slow happening, a slow boil in Ireland. And
growing up, we could get HTV,
Mark Cagney 04:27
which was Harlock. Yeah, and it was Welsh. Welsh TV
Sabina Brennan 04:31
It was ITV but we could just pick up the Welsh TV and I was the youngest of five. So I had
to stand with the rabbit’s ears to try and get them. You know, because people got it
through aerials or whatever. And
Mark Cagney 04:43
Try explaining that to kids now
Sabina Brennan 04:44
it’s pretty incredible to see the insular way we grew up and you were very much, So like. I
totally identify with what you’re saying. So my parents generations My dad was 42 when I
was born, so he was born in 1921. They were of their generation, which was was that they
were just lucky to be alive. And they were lucky to have a job. And they just followed that.
They didn’t question. They didn’t think outside the box as to how their life was to be lived. I
don’t think they realized there was choice or
Mark Cagney 05:17
as I get older, I do realize that I did have this conver.., these conversations. My father,
eventually, they had exactly the same questioning and rebellious feelings that we did. But
they had no context in which to express them. You know, my father was a jazz musician,
and he grew up
Sabina Brennan 05:33
Wow, I didn’t know that. That was he was a professional musician. I know. He did other the
things as well. He was, also he was in UCC, electric electronics, etc, etc. He was a brilliant
Mercurial man, smartest man I’ve ever met bar, his father, my grandfather, a mind that
was like Quicksilver and almost impossible to pin down, he could put his, turn his hand to
anything, had his papers as a mechanic because he wanted to be able to fix cars properly.
Also got his papers as a welder. So he had two trades, right, as well as having gone to
college to do electronics. But he was actually a musician first and foremost. And rock and
roll used to be called the devil’s music, but in actual fact the first devil his music was jazz.
He was every bit as rebellious and his generation had they had all the same rebellious
feelings and thoughts. They didn’t want what has gone before, but they didn’t have either
the outlet or the conditioning. I think we’re conditioned in another way. Well, they were
conditioned not to question
Mark Cagney 06:27
when we were as well. But I have to say, Well, my father was quite, you know, he was a
very, we had very bohemian house give you an example of how he.. things were, right. I
lived at the top Patrick Hill in Cork? Yeah. And all my friends lived, you know, kind of
halfway down the hill. And we were lucky because we had these two huge playing pitches,
open green spaces. So during long summer evenings, the pitches would be full of before
with all the local lads, would be playing football, some would be playing Gaelic, some
playing soccer, some playing hurling, whatever. And at eight o’clock on a summer’s
evening, I’d have to go in. Yeah, no, it wouldn’t get dark until nine half nine, but I would
have to go in and he would come out, and he would call me and which is mortifying. I
would go home, grumbling and, and mortified, embarrassed, because like they all be
going ha ha in to bed early. But as soon as I got home, that was grand I was in. And then I
could stay up until 12 o’clock. I could go and play records I could read. We had in those
days were television was still very primitive, and black and white. But you know, you could
do all of that. But it was just that. ‘My castle and my rules’.
Sabina Brennan 07:30
I wanted to go back to the music thing, because again, as I do with all my guests, I’ve
been doing as much stalking of you as I can. And I did know that your father was a
musician. I didn’t know that it was the jazz but
Mark Cagney 07:39
when he started out as a jazz musician, he was a purist. Right. And, you know, jazz was the
rock and roll of its day. And he did very well with it. He moved up to Dublin, played with
some big bands up there. Real jazz, like Duke Ellington type jazz, almost symphonic jazz.
And then, you know, Basie and the swing bands came in. And he really loved that because
he was a rhythm player. He was primarily guitar and bass. And he was not interested,
although he knew everything, pretty much that there was to know about what he needed
to play the way he did. But he was interested in rhythm and swing and driving and the
pulse and the heartbeat and he would go listen, I don’t care about solos because I used to
say to him how come you never solo? Guitar players didn’t at that stage, primarily a
rhythm instrument and he said I’m no no interested in it, he said, rhythm is king But the big
bands became economically not viable. Then they became, I suppose jump bands and
then effectively show bands and if you were to remember remember when he would have
started off he would have been in bands like Billy bronze band, there would have been 25
people more 15 to 20 people it
Sabina Brennan 08:37
Not a chance in a million year of making any money
Mark Cagney 08:39
when I say slimmed down, they then became
Sabina Brennan 08:42
became the Show bands
Mark Cagney 08:43
The show bands became the show bands. And he would have been in one of the first
generation of show bands in Ireland in the 50s band called the Reagan, like his
contemporaries would have been the early Royal show band and the Tipper Carlton’s and
those people who were all ex-jazzers, and that when on Monday nights, which is the
musicians night off, they would get together and jam in some club or some venue. And
then they would play their music, which would be always be, you know, jazz, and
everything from some Dixieland, swing, and then the cooler stuff, you know, Parker, and
early Duke Ellington, and people like that. So
Sabina Brennan 09:17
I know that you had said somewhere that you always loved music you would have liked to
have been,
Mark Cagney 09:22
well, my first choice. I wanted to be a musician. You see my father was professional
musician, but also, so were two of my aunts, my Mary, Mary, and Eileen, but Mary had the
more successful career of them because she would have sung with a lot of those bands.
And then she went to America, and before the Ed Sullivan Show, which people of a certain
generation will remember because it did launched people like, you know, the Beatles, and
the Stones in the States, but I mean he was the he was the Gay Byrne of America. But
before that, there was a guy called Arthur Godfrey, who ran for years in the 50s in the
States, and his was a variety show rather than, you know, chat show or And there was a
talent type Opportunity Knocks-type aspect to that show. So he would bring on new
performers and depending on how the audience voted or reacted to them they will be
kept
Sabina Brennan 10:08
a version of what is The Voice
Mark Cagney 10:10
yeah yeah
Sabina Brennan 10:10
those now, there’s always been versions, they’re not new things
Mark Cagney 10:13
nothing new
Sabina Brennan 10:13
Hughie Green show was one that we
Mark Cagney 10:15
Opportunity Knock
Sabina Brennan 10:16
Yeah, yeah.
Mark Cagney 10:16
Well, she ran on that show for 26 weeks
Sabina Brennan 10:18
Wow.
Mark Cagney 10:19
Which would have been on primetime television in the States. Now, she got picked up by
some producers in Broadway. And she did her own show over there. She did a show on
Broadway called The Belle of New York.
Sabina Brennan 10:29
Wow.
Mark Cagney 10:29
And the signature role in that is Mimi, and that was Mary’s role. And so she had a very
successful career. And then as a result of that, herself and Eileen, Mary would have been a
much better all round performer but her sister, my aunt Eileen had a much purer voice,
technically a beautiful voice and could sing anything but hated performing. She was, used
to be, physically ill. Mary loved it she was a natural-born performer. But they were invited
to tour with Arthur Feeler and the Boston Pops. So she had a stellar career. I mean, she
made records for Glenside. Remember, back in the in the days of sponsored programs,
there used to be a program called the Glenside Show. Glenside were an Irish record label.
I think that the tag was “If you’re going to sing a song, sing an Irish song”, So that Mary
had quite a few records done for them but she got tired of the road and she got fed up
with it. You know this it’s great when you’re in your 20s in your 30s you get to mid 30s. And
on and you know, it takes a toll you get haggard you get fed up of sharing a couch with,
you know, 25 men and all that goes with that. And you just want to be at home, you know,
you want to wake up in your own bed. So she came back but when she was in America,
she she got very friendly with a woman called Helena Rubinstein, or Helena Rubinstein.
She was one of the doyens of makeup and beauty. So she got very friendly with her. I think
she might have been a fan of her music or whatever. And Mary’s a very striking looking
woman and would have had to do her own makeup, you know, obviously would, you
know, they didn’t have makeup artists back in those days all the girls took care of
themselves and looked very glamorous, because you’re on the road and you’ve got 25
men who are not going to help you with it. So she said, Would you be interested in doing
that I’m going to open up in Europe. And then so Mary went to work for her and there was
the Helena Rubenstein counter in Lester’s pharmacy,
Sabina Brennan 12:14
which is like a boots.
Mark Cagney 12:16
Well, it would have been old school, it would be big. And you mean you had the Munster
arcade, you had Cashes, your grocery stores and you had the Lester’s
Sabina Brennan 12:24
this was in cork
Mark Cagney 12:25
Mark Cagney 12:25
so when she came back, she just basically went into the cosmetics business. She stood at
that counter for I don’t know, another 25 or 30 years
Sabina Brennan 12:32
So Mary played a huge role in your life. There’s a couple of things I want to ask is, and you
did end up in a career in music as a disc jockey,
Mark Cagney 12:39
because it was as close as I could get
Sabina Brennan 12:40
Yes. Why? Did you try?
Mark Cagney 12:43
My manual dexterity? just wasn’t there? I have a very good ear. Yeah. I have a pretty good
time. Kind of a built in clock metronome. Just the fingers wouldn’t work. Maybe I tried the
wrong instrument. And did you try your voice as an instrument I couldn’t sing to save my
life saved my life. Really? Oh, no, no, no, no.
Sabina Brennan 12:59
And that’s funny, because you know,
Mark Cagney 13:01
my father could sing as well. By the way. He was a good singer. Hands like a labourer. you
will go How can he play? And you won’t hear him play the piano really didn’t know he
actually really like to stomp? you know, but they’re incredibly delicate. And he could work
with tiny little screws and electronics and stuff like that
Sabina Brennan 13:01
Isn’t it interesting.And it’s incredible. But what amazes me and like, sort of, I suppose and
anyone out there as well, you know, if you’ve ever wanted to, you can try and you can
learn some things that
Mark Cagney 13:26
I tried. I tried. I tried. And what’s that, from? I don’t know, Shakespeare and possibly you
can say Shakespeare who’s going to disagree with you. But ‘be careful, be careful lest you
trample or crush my dreams’. my father was, as I said a little earlier, he was incredibly
bright. And worse than that. He had a facility to absorb knowledge in Mercurial, he could
pick something
Sabina Brennan 13:49
What do you mean by Mercurial?
Mark Cagney 13:51
Well, his his mind was Mercurial in the sense that he was always coming up with things, he
was always looking at new things, he was always going at, I could make that better. And
he would right, he did have a Mercury of temper too. Short and sharp and blow up, but
not frightening. But his mind was constantly moving in different directions. And as he did
that, he had the ability to absorb things. So for example, he could take up a new
instrument that wasn’t his primary or secondary instrument. And, you know, I remember
once he was asked, there was a gig, going with a really, really good Caberet band, and
they said, Look, we don’t need a guitar player, bass player, we do need a piano player.
Actually, what we really need is an organ player, because in those days, you could§ get
organs that had bass pedals,
Sabina Brennan 14:32
Right? right.
Mark Cagney 14:32
So he could take care of all the keyboard stuff, and then he could play the bass pedals as
well. He said, Well, I haven’t done that. He said, give me give me a while. So he got an
organ. And within two weeks, he was good enough to go on and get paid And play it and
get one partly not just play, but actually play to a level where it was acceptable for a
professional outfit
Sabina Brennan 14:50
So how was that for you?
Mark Cagney 14:51
It’s incredibly frustrating.
Sabina Brennan 14:52
Yeah, that’s what I was gonna say for you growing up. How was that seeing
Mark Cagney 14:55
It meant you were never good enough You could never do anything as well as he could..
He would ask you to do a job and he would say, listen, strip that wallpaper or paint that,
and you do it to the best of your ability as an 11, 12, 13 year old, And then he was your God
if you want something done, do it yourself. you know, and you just kind of now he, these
days in this current ‘woke’ world that we live in, you know, people would be on onto
Childline you know going…I’m being killed
Sabina Brennan 15:06
it was just never… Oh gosh look sure half
Mark Cagney 15:22
my esteem has been destroyed by my parents and all the rest of it. But he just had a
facility to get stuff really, really quick. He was super smart. He had an enquiring mind, and
he had a facility to absorb stuff. And he would be able to absorb it and then use it,
Sabina Brennan 15:35
he was always frustrated by other people who can’t operate at the same level as him.
Mark Cagney 15:40
Yeah, the downside of that was is that because he could do that his attention span was
minuscule. And he didn’t finish things.
Sabina Brennan 15:50
Oh, okay. So he didn’t follow through. He just was flitting around
Mark Cagney 15:53
because it came too easy to him,
Sabina Brennan 15:54
right?
Mark Cagney 15:54
Because it came way too easy to him. And he didn’t understand people for whom things
didn’t come easily too, for example, me with music. You’d never live up to it, you’d never
match it, I’d never be able to play an instrument like he was never the smart as he was, I
could never do things the way he did. But I mean, again, the otherside of that he was
forever taking things apart and putting them back together again, and they would work
better, was extraordinary. But it just drove my mom crazy. We had this enormous dinner
table in our house. And it was like, I have four sisters and three brothers. So there was eight
of us. And You’re the eldest of eight. I’m the eldest. So the table had to be big enough to
take all eight of us. plus my parents. And then of course, my father going ah well look we
always need a bit of extra room on my mother was, was a tailor/ dressmaker. So she
needed a really big
Sabina Brennan 16:36
table for cutting out
Mark Cagney 16:38
Exactly, all of that kind of stuff. So there was, it was enormous. I mean, you could have
fitted another six or eight, maybe another six people. And I remember for months, there
was an engine at the end of that. And the reason we all remembered is that because for
about six or eight months, our food all tasted of oil, because there was this Mercedes
engine, he was fac.. He was obsessed with Mercedes cars, that engine at the end of the
thing that he was rebuilding, and he was doing it and I remember my mother losing her
mind on occasions, quite ‘Jesus Christ Johnny’ I’m sick to death of the food tasting of oil.
oh boy, when do you ever get that bloody thing off it? And that’s
Sabina Brennan 17:13
and I’m not diagnosing anyone. But it does sound slightly manic, you know?
Mark Cagney 17:19
He was mad, and it was loose, and it was bohemian. And all of my friends thought it was
great this place.
Sabina Brennan 17:24
So if this fabulous sort of, well, it sounds sort of fabulous, unusual, bohemian life. You have
this amazing dad that you’ve just described. And then at 16
Mark Cagney 17:36
oh well it had started before that
Sabina Brennan 17:37
15? you left because you’re only a child, whatever age, whether you were 15 or 16 you left
home
Mark Cagney 17:42
All his bohemian outlook on life and in questioning everything and questioning convention
and being you know, quite unconventional in his own way. He wanted very conventional
upbringing for us. So my educational and career path was mapped out and he used to say
listen, go to college, get your degree then you can have your life then you can do what
you want. But until then, my house my rules this what’s going to happen. His father had
been a, was a doctor, had been surgeon, his brother was one. Another brother was in the
Air Corps was a commandant in the Air Corps. But he was the rebel, himself and Mary
were the rebels
Sabina Brennan 18:12
both extremely successful in what they have to
Mark Cagney 18:15
academically yes they’d all done well, but still very conventional, Cork. You’re going to the
right schools.
Sabina Brennan 18:21
So you’re very posh sort of.
Mark Cagney 18:24
I had a very.I had a very good private education. My brothers, my sisters went to Saint
Angela’s, at the bottom of Patrick’s Hill, we lived at the top I went to Christians, which
would be the equivalent of Black Rock, I suppose.
Sabina Brennan 18:35
Right?
Mark Cagney 18:35
Christians and Pres. So yeah, I had the benefit of all of that. But my father had everything
mapped out for me. And I had other ideas. And I didn’t want what he, I didn’t want to go
to college, I didn’t want to be a doctor, I didn’t want to be told what to do. I wanted to be
able to grow my hair as long as I wanted. I wanted to be involved in music in some form or
fashion. And, you know, I was 14 / 15 / 16 and waiting till I was 23 / 24 and came out of
college. Just like 1 0 years is a lifetime not having any of that. And I was also again a bit
like him, a lot like him questioning and stubborn and like why. I painted a picture of him
being kind of very authoritarian. And he was in many ways, you know, we had very boho
of kind of existence and command structure and hierarchy within the house, and then
quite strict as far as it looked from the outside. But we were all encouraged. Like one of
my grandfather’s great saying was that education is no burden. You can do everything
Sabina Brennan 19:36
the great liberator
Mark Cagney 19:36
Absolutely you should do everything. You should do everything you possibly can, read as
much as you can. learn as much as you can, ask as many questions as you can, because
you can’t know too much. Use it. And what was nothing used to say is is the older I get, the
more I realise how little I actually really know. So that was encouraged in our house and
big house that people were sitting around talking and you were encouraged to think and
you’d be questioned on it So you have to have sharp elbows both physically and also
mentally. And, like I had the biggest mouth, and I had the most questioning mind and I
didn’t understand why the contradictions. You know ‘You didn’t do what your father did’.
Sabina Brennan 19:39
Yeah,
Mark Cagney 19:44
you know you’d have taken over his practice you’d have become a doctor like your
brother Michael did. No you didn’t want to do that? No, you want to do music you want to
follow your heart. Find something you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life. So
that’s what I want to do. ‘My house my rules, You don’t like it? There’s the door’. One day I
went, Okay, so I took the door. And I’ve never really talked to him about what he thought
whatever. But he his immediate reaction was, okay, so you made your bed now you lie on
it. I’m not gonna ask you to come back
Sabina Brennan 20:42
So when you’re when you physically because I remember walking 16 as well and been
yanked Back, Back home sort of thing. But when you walked out that door, did you know
you were going to your grandfather? did you go What the hell I
Mark Cagney 20:55
I had gone a couple of times first. Okay. There was a few few failed attempts. In actual
fact, I did my I did my junior cert, while sleeping in his car. In his car, my father’s car, I had
left.
Sabina Brennan 21:12
Wow,
Mark Cagney 21:14
it was a real cute hoor move on my part really cute horror movie on my so that’s 14, I knew
I wasn’t going to get the exams. I hadn’t done the work. And I was breaking myself over I
went This is good. This is bad. So how can I create a diversion?
Sabina Brennan 21:26
Did you honestly think that
Mark Cagney 21:28
this is I hate this, I’m not gonna do this, I’m not gonna go well, I’m going to get killed.
September is going to be awful. And there was a lot of trouble between us there’s a lot of
arguing, fighting. And, you know, I was the eldest daughter, you have to remember and
the experiment. And one of the things I realized subsequently as a parent, is, is that you
really do learn on the job with the first one, the others get the benefit, right. And they were
doing it and they had seven,
Sabina Brennan 21:49
and they were learning from you. Well, they were watching because as a fifth child, I was
the youngest. So I watched what the others did or didn;t do you know,
Mark Cagney 21:57
I’d had a few breakouts before that. And and also I there had been times, because of
whatever was going on with them financially, where I had gone to live with my mother’s
parents, my Nana and PA who were lovely. I was blessed with two great grandparents
that, who I loved dearly, really loved dearly. And then pop was my, my father was his
favourite. He has his pet. And at another stage, I went to live with them in a house called
Coolecarn Bishopstown. Coolcarren, which I adore it. I loved. I just thought this is lovely.
It’s brilliant. It’s just me and pop and mom, and Mary, and all of this space. And nobody
and no kids. I wanted to be an only child. But anyway, I knew that Junior. was going to be
a disaster. And I literally like I have to, what am I going to do, either… I can’t not do it,
because they’ll make me. But if something was to happen, that I couldn’t do it for some
reason or other, then I’d get away with it. Something happened. And the rose would
always start with who myself my mother. And then she’d go ‘Johnny, you need to talk to
him’. And then she’d kind of make the bullets and he’d fire them.
Sabina Brennan 23:02
Right. So he did what your mum said
Mark Cagney 23:03
There was a blazing row between myself and my mother overr something he came in. And
there was some row over it and I don’t actually remember the details of it. But I stalked off.
And then she’s going “but what… he’s got his junior, what’s he going to do? What’s he
going to do? You can’t do that. That’s just ridiculous”. “I’m not having a few knows what
the rules are. There’s the door get out” thinking, of course, it’d be back soon as I got
hungry. And I didn’t I went down to my best friend Kevin Moynihan’s house and I got fed
there. And then it was it I was gonna stay with him that night. And then the second night
was like, hang on a second, how come you’re not going home? So where was I going to
go? So this is back in the days when people didn’t lock their cars. So I kind of crept back
up the hill. And I tried the car, the car door opened and I went in, and I slept in the car.
And the junior was starting the that was over the course the weekend. It was starting on
the Monday it was and I think the first two or three days I slept in the car. Now, they knew I
was in the car, right? My mother would come out with a bit of breakfast, all the rest of it.
But of course, you know, it was completely disrupted. Eventually it kind of calmed down
and I think a really cold one of the nights or something and it was like For God’s sake get
back inside.
Sabina Brennan 23:17
Yeah, yeah,
Mark Cagney 23:25
it was he wouldn’t say you have to come home or I’m asking you, it’s just like get back
inside you. But the plan worked because I failed the junior. But of course it couldn’t be
blamed for it because how could I do proper Junior certificate I was
Sabina Brennan 24:23
…. living in a car.
Mark Cagney 24:24
That stage then I would have been 15that coming September. And then there was kind of
a guerrilla warfare between both of us on and off
Sabina Brennan 24:35
both of us? between yourself and your dad or yourself and your mum
Mark Cagney 24:38
Myself an my parents.
Sabina Brennan 24:39
Yeah,
Mark Cagney 24:39
There was, there was,… I was an absolute pup. I was just difficult. I was awkward.
Sabina Brennan 24:43
You were a teenager.
Mark Cagney 24:44
Well, yeah. And I was a mouthy gobby one.
Sabina Brennan 24:48
Yeah, but most teenagers are, you know.
Mark Cagney 24:50
Manipulative and you know, cunning.
Sabina Brennan 24:52
You’ve said at some point in an interview that I read, that you blamed yourself for a lot
The upset and turmoil that happened in your family. But surely the adults have to take
some responsibility for that, too.
Mark Cagney 25:07
You want to find out how I got to my grandfather? Here’s here’s, and it’s interesting that
you take that point of view. Right Fast forward a year, and things hadn’t gotten any better.
And then I was having trouble in school as well, in the year I went back after my, my junior.
And there was rules or regulations. And I eventually told one of the senior brothers to go
on
Sabina Brennan 25:27
Feck off,
Mark Cagney 25:28
and there was more drama. So like, I was suspended, and then I was thrown out. And this is
coming up to the Christmas and there was more going on in house. And it was just
desperate. And you know, you ruin Christmas, You spolied it and dah, dah, dah… And
eventually, I thought, right, you know what, I’ve had enough of this. And I found a lot of
money. Well, a lot of money at the time, in a drawer. And I went, right, okay. And at this
stage now I’m coming up to 15 /16. I wasn’t mad about drink, but there were like house
parties and all that stuff. And I had a friend whose parents had a couple of cottages, I
suppose you would call them but they were rented out and the people are rented out to
run away over Christmas. So he was gonna have a party and one of those. And he said
will you come to the party and I went Okay. We can stay that for a couple of days.
Because
Sabina Brennan 26:16
the parents are away
Mark Cagney 26:17
Yeah, yeah, right. So. So we went to that went to the party had a great time. And it was
free for about a week, I left on Christmas Eve, by the way, for maximum effect, oh, my
goodness, oh maximum effect? Or am I going to ruin Christmas I’ll ruin it properly. And I
left with a bunch of money, which obviously wasn’t mine. So I couch surfed, I suppose, or
whatever you call me back then for as long as I could. And that went on for about a week.
And then got into January. And nobody had any idea who I was because very few people
had phones back in those.
Sabina Brennan 26:47
Yeah, yes.
Mark Cagney 26:48
So trying to find,
Sabina Brennan 26:50
and we’re talking house phones not mobile phones. Oh, yeah, yeah. So
Mark Cagney 26:53
Anyway, eventually Whelan said, Listen, they’re coming back, you’re going to have to go
they’re coming back. You have to find somewhere else. And I dossed with somebody else
for another night or two. And then I had nowhere to go. So I was literally on the streets. I
remember finding a doorway in North Main Street in Cork and getting run out of it
because it was somebody else’s doorway.
Sabina Brennan 27:11
Wow.
Mark Cagney 27:12
So it was a bit like and again, you’re the kind of 16 you think you’re brave, but actually it’s
cold. It’s bitterly cold
Sabina Brennan 27:17
Freezing, yeah, yeah
Mark Cagney 27:17
Some hairy shaggy fellow looks like it’s, you know, like, like something from a Dickens
novel. Says, “get out of there”. and gives you a root in the arse to send you on your way. So
eventually, I worked my way out to the Western road. I remember getting right opposite
the entrance to UCC, there was a kind of a seated area, had a canopy on it where, you
know, people would would stop and rest and whatever. So I saw Oh, look, there’s a bench
there and it’s covered so but it was getting bitterly cold at the stage. I’ll kind of settled
down there freezing my you may have picked the time of the year for maximum effect.
but it really wasnt a good time of the year for rough living No it wasn’t I got run out of htat
again. And I to start well, Western road, I’m on my way to Bishopstown, that’s where pop,
and Mary are.So just keep walking, because at least if I’m walking, I’m gonna be warm.
And eventually I ended up on their door at about four, half four in the morning. And they
had known obviously, they were so she went come on, come in, fed me, warmed me up
and rang my father and said, “Look, he’s okay, he’s here. You might want to leave it a day
or two to calm down.”
Sabina Brennan 28:20
Yeah.
Mark Cagney 28:21
So my father came over. And my father and my grandfather were, as I said, they were like
best buds. And he adored him. And they had a big row over it. And he says, “I’m not
putting up with this, you don’t know what he’s like. And this is the straw that has broken
the camel’s back and all the rest, to hell with him.. And my grandfather turned to him and
said, “Listen, no grandchild of mine is going to be wandering the street. That’s just not
going to happen”. He said, “You have no idea what he’s like, well if you think he’s, so easy?
Well, you take him then.” So he said, “Well, he’s got to go somewhere. And he’s a child,
and you’re an adult,” “you’re taking his side against mine.” If you’re a grown up, you need
to behave like one. And if you’re not going to do that, then he’s got to go somewhere. So
he’ll stay here,” “You can’t do that. What are you going to even take my son. we’ll see what
people have to say about that”. And remember Pop saying it he said, “Well, good luck,
with going into court against Dr. Paddy Cagney. No, Because he had, would have been
highly highly respected. So my father was livid and furious and it caused a huge rift
between the two of them, which I am, to this day, deeply sorry for.
Sabina Brennan 29:16
And did they ever heal the Rift,
Mark Cagney 29:18
He would have gone to visit his father two or three, Well, at least once a week, maybe
twice a week, every week and we would go with him. From there on in, he would ring
ahead to say I’m coming make sure make sure I’m not there. Okay, so those visits dropped
to maybe once every fortnight. And it was kind of, had to be arranged and it was awful
and I deeply regret that that happened.. The only thing I will say in my defence was is that
my grandfather was at that stage going into senility or early Alzheimer’s or whatever. And
physically this great big strapping man, but he didn’t know where he was a lot of the time.
So you ended up looking after him. I did it and it was a pleasure and a privilege.
Something that helped me grow up a lot. The first time I’d ever really thought of anybody
other than myself. And it was somebody I loved deeply, and who was a huge influence on
me. And not just loved, but I admired. I won’t say at the time that I consciously was doing
it for my father or being a surrogate for my father. But I subsequently think that their must
have been some.. I’m sure your father saw that too? Do you think?
Sabina Brennan 30:23
You can frame it that way.
Mark Cagney 30:24
Well, I know that Mary said, she said, “you know, your father’s right you are a pup And, you
know, I didn’t know whether we made the right right or wrong decisions, she said but
when I saw you with pop and the way you were with him, she said, I thought, you know
what, he’ll be grand. we just need to work on it a bit and get it out of him”. And so that was
a very, formative experience Ehhh I’m not sure. You see, there’s two acts of forgiveness
that need to go on there. One was that I robbed him of that. But also that he robbed
himself of that there’s absolutely no reason why he couldn’t have visited his father. I mean,
I could have gone to the room to
Sabina Brennan 30:57
your father’s passed away, still alive?
Mark Cagney 31:00
My father’s gone,
Sabina Brennan 31:00
Gone.
Mark Cagney 31:02
So, but that rift never really healed, and I was, you know, it tore the family apart. And
there were people took sides, you know, and, and people take sides in my own, my own
immediate family. I mean, it went on for donkey’s years.
Sabina Brennan 31:15
But there does come a point where you have to self preserve, or you have to make peace
with what happened and, and move on. Because it’s the only way you can kind of survive,
you kind of get stuck in a moment. And I’m going to jump forward. Because this podcast is
all about surviving and thriving in life. And when you go through your life story, You’ve,
you’ve endured an awful lot of,… you have
Mark Cagney 31:38
I’ve made people endure.
Sabina Brennan 31:40
Ah no, no, no. But you’ve also, you know, you’ve lived through, you’ve mentioned your first
wife, and she tragically died very, very young. And I really do want to talk to you about
that. So you met Anne when you were about 19?
Mark Cagney 31:51
Yeah, in Cork at the time
Sabina Brennan 31:51
she had health issues.
Mark Cagney 31:52
Of yeah she had nephritis when she was seven, and her kidneys were in the process of
failing. She was on dialysis.
Sabina Brennan 31:59
While, when you when you were dating?
Mark Cagney 32:01
Oh, yeah, it was You know how I found out? I found out about that, when we were dancing
one night, and I had a leather jacket on. And even though the music was quite loud, I
could hear a kind of zzzzzz, a kind of a buzzing and feel a little vibration on my shoulder.
And I went what the hell is that?
Sabina Brennan 32:20
Yeah,
Mark Cagney 32:21
you know, and it was in a nightclub where I worked as well. And I just thought, is there
something wrong with the speaker, whatever. She didn’t say anything. Yeah, she just kind
of gave a little smile And I went “do you not hear that am I going mad she went , yeah.
And then, little afterwards, we were sitting down. And I was holding her hand. And she had
what’s called a fistula, which is where they join a vein and an artery to make the blood
pump faster to go into the the dialysis machine, right? It’s a joining of the two, she used to
do it as a joke to freak out nurses who were taking her pulse for the first time. She’d give
them the left hand, and they’d put their hand on the fistula. And they got ‘Oh, my God’,
like they’d been, because it’s almost like getting an electric shock, you could feel the
buzzing. And it was, it was the buzzing of that on the leather jacket. And I just went, ‘What
the hell is that?’ So then she explained. Oh on the other thing as well, I could never
understand why she wouldn’t let me bring her home. Because she would go to the club,
she would only drink water and chips of ice. She didn’t drink any alcohol. And then at two
or three, she would disappear. Or she’d go No, sorry. I’m up early in the morning. No, I’m
going home with the girls or whatever. But she was actually going to Finbarrs to be
dialysed. She used to have her dialysis done in the middle of the night. And then she
would come home, get some sleep. And then she’d go to work. So she to all intents and
purposes, she was completely normal. You would never ever know unless she chose to tell
you. And so that’s how I found out that she was a dialysis patient.
Sabina Brennan 33:48
Wow. And so then you married relatively young.
Mark Cagney 33:53
Yeah, I met her when I was 19. And we were going out with each other for a couple of
years. And then, what age was I, married when I was 24
Sabina Brennan 33:58
Do you know what year you were married?
Mark Cagney 33:58
Em now I have to calculate I calculated our relationship in different ways, right? We were
married on the 28th of March. Yes. So our wedding anniversary was recently, the 28th of
March
Sabina Brennan 34:03
And the 28th of March is also the anniversary of her death.
Mark Cagney 34:18
hang on a second though, 30 years ago, last Sunday. And we had been married for 11
years. So that’s 41 years. And we’ve been together for six years before that.
Sabina Brennan 34:28
And she’s dead 20 years and
Mark Cagney 34:30
She’s dead. 30 years, 30 years since last 28th of March.
Sabina Brennan 34:34
So very tragic, very young project. She was 38 and you were younger than her> Yeah,
Mark Cagney 34:41
she was older.
Sabina Brennan 34:43
You were 34. And to phrase this question about how did you cope because you didn’t
really cope. I mean, obviously you have gone on to survive and thrive. But at the time
when she collapsed. She collapsed in Brown Thomas,
Mark Cagney 34:59
She’d had the first hemorrhage there
Sabina Brennan 35:01
A brain hemorrhage?
Mark Cagney 35:02
Subarachnoid Yeah.
Sabina Brennan 35:03
Okay.
Mark Cagney 35:03
And they took her to the Meath hospital and I got a call, ended up going to the Meath
we’re told look, we’re not sure, something in her head, might be hemorrhage. We’re going
to do a CAT scan. Now back in those days a CAT scan was a big deal. It was a bit ooh
something with the brain. Yeah. And they have to move on from the Meath, then to
Beaumont.
Sabina Brennan 35:25
Beaumont handles all sort of head injuries, neurology
Mark Cagney 35:27
So we sat around there, they did the CAT scan, and they came back and said she’s had
sub arachnoid brain hemorrhage. Thankfully, that bleed wasn’t too long. But we’ve also
found that there’s another vessel on the other side. I don’t know which one is the vertebral
is on the right hand side. I don’t know what vein is on the side, right. But there was one on
the other side at the back of her head, which is ready to go as well. Interestingly enough,
because of all of the messing around with veins and fistulas. And at that stage, she’d had
two kidney transplants. So like her cardiovascular system had been interfered with.
Sabina Brennan 36:02
I mean, she’d been ill since Yeah, for 21 years really
Mark Cagney 36:0
There were little bulges and potential embolisms And apparently, also, she had too, what
was known as a tangle of vessels, which I believe is quite common, right, that a lot of
people have them. And women in particular seemed at that time to be more prone to
brain hemorrhages in their mid to late 30s. I have no idea whether that’s true, or not I
must have a look into that. But Anyway, she had another vein or artery which was ready
to pop, or was bulging, or they we’re worried about it, they said, Look, this one was a very
short, I think this the first bleed was sort of two or three seconds. So this one could be
much longer, could be much longer, much more dangerous. We have to go in and we have
to fix it. Now. That’s a really, really big deal for an awful lot of couples and for an awful lot
of people But when you had gone to the edge as often as Anne and I had with various
things with with kidney transplant, which was groundbreaking surgery back in the time,
and she had gotten really, really sick at one stage and spent nearly 18 months in Mary’s in
the park, because she got shingles, which in her case, ended up with practically every inch
of skin from her neck down to her bellybutton being taken off I mean it was dreadful, it
was awful.
Sabina Brennan 37:10
And you’re only kids really in a way through
Mark Cagney 37:12
We are, we are and we were int Dublin and we’re..
Sabina Brennan 37:14
you can say that with hindsight like I’m in my late 50s. Now you look back and you realize
that your 20s you really are kids and even your early 30s
Mark Cagney 37:22
She was a pro
Sabina Brennan 37:25
She obviously had to grow up very young, you know,
Mark Cagney 37:28
She would put herself on and off the machine, she would she would do because she could
insert the needles better than any nurse or any doctor. She was so expert at it and she
knew.
Sabina Brennan 37:35
So they’re going to take her into, for surgery. So she was conscious, was she conscious
between the first
Mark Cagney 37:40
She was yeah. we’re having a conversation I never forget the last conversation was
because it was, look, this is what she did. She went into the ring, she fought the battle, she
always won. I held her coat and held the fort down. And it was you’ve had this, there’s
another one on the other side. It needs to be sorted out. Otherwise you could have a big
problem. And she went “Yeah, okay, come on.” This is what I do. “And I always win” she
said, “Oh, by the way, you know, it’s bin day tomorrow.” I said, Oh Yeah, yeah She said
“make sure you put the bins out and don’t forget to feed the dogs”. And I’ll see when I
wake up. And those were the last words she spoke So she went, she had it. She was in an
induced coma. She didn’t really regain….
Sabina Brennan 38:14
that’s to protect her Aww
Mark Cagney 38:23
And it stayed like that. And then she had another massive
Sabina Brennan 38:30
hemorrhage.
Mark Cagney 38:32
Oh, I have to remember the timeframe because it all blurs,
Sabina Brennan 38:36
I can imagine.
Mark Cagney 38:37
That initial hemorrhage, in Brown Thomas happened on the 18th. And then two days later,
they operated. So the 20th and then she was recovering for two or three, four or five days.
And then she had another massive bleed, which went on for they thought in the region of
18 seconds and it was over and done with it was gone. She was gone. That was actually,
oh out was the 24th Yeah. 24th 25th. And they went “look, we’ll ventilate her but we have
no idea how long this would go on. And I don’t know if you know about brainstem it could
be three hours could be three days could be three weeks could be three months. You know
it will happen when it will happen” At this stage my head is fried, melted because I
thought she’d win she always did she never lost
Sabina Brennan 39:28
never I think for you compared to other people. I think other people would say she had no
previous history and then had this you’d be going oh my god, she could die. Oh my god.
Oh my god. What? Because you’d had that repeated
Mark Cagney 39:42
indestructible
Sabina Brennan 39:43
you’d been there before, more routine I suppose
Mark Cagney 39:44
Well she was the strongest person I knew? she just refused to allow this, to define her and
to beat her. But you have to face facts. And people were very sorry and all the rest of it. So
I remember being told that and I went off to try to get my head clear. And I remember
coming back about a half hour, 40 minutes later, and talking to the staff nurse, the senior
nurse on the ward and saying, Listen, I know when she would go. Anyway, she went, yeah, I
said she will go on the 28th. And she’ll probably go somewhere around Tea Time and she
went “Yes, Mr. Cagney, whatever you say” sh said, Listen, you don’t know her? I do. She
didn’t get to say goodbye. She will go on the 28th, around five or six o’clock? And she said,
“Really? Why?” I said because that was the day we got married. And that’s when we sat
down to our meal for our wedding. And she’d say goodbye, then. That’s when she’ll go.
And that’s exactly when she went. Now. I had to give the permission to switch the
machine off. I had to give permission for that. That’s a very challenging decision, for a 34
year old what do you do? Every now and again and I’ve never actually do you know
Getting me to say things here, I’m possibly leaving too much out on the pitch. You know,
you do these kinds of things over the years. And people ask you Oh, it was the hardest
thing you’ve ever had to do? Or who’s the most famous person you’ve ever interviewed?
Or, you know, you get those kind of 20 questions type things, right. And somebody recently
asked me about what was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. And the hardest thing
that I personally have ever had to do, is to give permission for that machine to be
switched off. You actually think about it, this is your life. This is your soulmate. And even
though she’s, you know, intellectually that she’s gone, and that it would be, you know, the
cruelest thing you possibly could do not to?
Sabina Brennan 41:39
Well, sounding by the kind of independent individual she was
Mark Cagney 41:42
Exactly.
Sabina Brennan 41:43
She would have just hated that.
Mark Cagney 41:45
Yeah, absolutely. She would have, then there’s this thing. She’s also the toughest person
that you’ve ever met. Anybody could defy the odds and come back, it would be her, but
you knew at this stage it was gone
Sabina Brennan 41:54
Okay, so I hadn’t, I hadn’t thought about that. That argument that you were having in your
head, oh, my God,
Mark Cagney 42:00
the extent of the hemorrhage was so severe that she could have existed was,
Sabina Brennan 42:05
did you make that decision alone? I mean, I know you were her next of kin. So you didn’t
discuss with her parents or anything? You just
Mark Cagney 42:13
Eh no, it was my decision,
Sabina Brennan 42:15
right?
Mark Cagney 42:17
Ah now, I was there with her brother, who was brilliant Eric, like a brother. But the biggest
lesson that I took out of that. And it does apply to the parenting thing a little later on,
which is, ah you can.. Well, you can go mad, and I did go mad. Okay, eventually, I had
really good friends around me, they pulled me back and all the rest of it. Then you have to
think about what do you do? Well you can go on or you can go under? And how do you go
on when you’ve lost all of this. And it’s the, it’s very simple. It’s that glass half full, or glass
half empty. I had an amazing relationship. I had it for 16 years. And there’s millions of
people who don’t get that at all. So be grateful for what you had, not for what you’ve lost.
Or, more importantly, don’t be bitter about what you’ve lost. Because as Nelson Mandela
famously said, ‘being bitter is like drinking the poison, hoping the other fellow will die
doesn’t work. It only poisons you”. So what you had was wonderful. It’s awful, that it’s been
taken away. But we didn’t have and this is maybe the most valuable lesson and the one
that actually helps me with the second phase of my life, which is that there was nothing
left unsaid between us, we had the most normal, ordinary, mundane conversation that
you could possibly have before somebody going for major surgery, which you know,
wasn’t successful and ultimately led to her death. You know, if your last words with
somebody you love, if you had a choice of what they would be, you probably pick
something really flowery and profound, whatever, right? Mine was about putting out the
bin and making sure the dog was fed, and I’ll see when you wake up. But that was also the
very fabric of our lives, and our love and the way we work together. So in one way, it is the
most banal and ordinary on another level. It’s a perfect expression of the life I had, which I
loved and which she loved. But there was nothing left unsaid between
Sabina Brennan 44:09
See I think that’s a lovely, lovely, lovely way to look at bereavement of any kind,
particularly certain bereavement
Mark Cagney 44:17
as another day in paradise. Yeah,
Sabina Brennan 44:19
yeah, that’s a lovely way. That’s just so lovely. Just another day of
Mark Cagney 44:23
very ordinary paradise, but like our parents, yeah, yeah. Another lesson taught me Sabina,
was, make sure make sure that you tell the people you love and you care for and who love
and care for you how you feel, not in a big grand gesture, but just… I do it with the kids all
the time. And I check in with them every now and again. I go listen you know, I love you,
don’t you? You know, you can tell me anything. You know, no matter what you do, I have
no choice. I have to love you like that goes with the gig. It’s unconditional. I might not like
you sometimes. I might not like you a lot of the times but I’ll always love you. And I’ll
always have to love you. And no matter what you do or whatever trouble you get into,
come and talk to me about We’ll sort it out first and I’ll eat the years off you afterwards for
being stupid enough to put yourself in that situation.
Sabina Brennan 45:05
But I will never not love you?
Mark Cagney 45:07
Absolutely. So there’s nothing left unsaid. So there are no regrets. There’s no torture,
because that way lies despair. It’s the old, you keep looking into the abyss of ‘what if’
forgetting, of course, that the Abyss looks back into you. To paraphrase Goethe, I’m not
sure that he quite meant it like that but “That way lies madness and that way lies despair.
And either because I’m incredibly lucky, or maybe my survivor’s instinct was operating an
overdrive at the time, that I got incredibly smart, in some way, a combination of the two, it
saved me. Now, I did need help, I’d what I didn’t need medication I didn’t need, I didn’t
need to go to see doctors, I didn’t need therapy, I didn’t need any of that.
Sabina Brennan 45:52
You needed friends,
Mark Cagney 45:53
I needed friends,
Sabina Brennan 45:53
and you had great friends.
Mark Cagney 45:54
And I had great friends
Sabina Brennan 45:55
And that’s what really stuck out to me
Mark Cagney 45:56
An be grateful for for what I had.
Sabina Brennan 45:57
And I, you know, in terms of surviving trauma, because life throws, I say this time, and
again, we have no control over what life throws at us. But you have control over how you
respond. You went back to work way too soon after losing your wife. And you can kind of
see how that, you know, might have happened. And you said you had whatever you felt
was a breakdown, but you hadn’t gone through the grieving process at all. You know, it’s
very clear now that you’ve made peace with that. And that unconditional love piece is so
important. And I think when it comes to love, you know, I see people and you know, you
kind of look at them. And I’ve said this over and again on this, you know, the movies and
novels have an awful lot to answer for because they paint this picture of what love is, you
know, and oh, he does this for me. And it does that Look for me. It’s that mundane, you
know, I’m married to someone and we sort of say, Valentine’s Day, “I’m not getting your
card”, “I’m not getting you a card Couldn’t be arsed. But you know what, I’ve had terrible
migraine this week, and it goes down into my neck and my husband will look at me and
say “you’re in bits aren’t you?” Yeah he’ll like, stop everything and try and help relieve me.
That’s love. That’s, you know, you don’t have to say those things. And that’s life. It’s the
other stuff. You know, you can say I love you. You’re the best, you can say all those things.
Moon in June and the honeymoon lasts for how long? What do you do with the rest of
your life? Exactly. You’d become best…
Mark Cagney 47:14
who’s the first person you want? If something happens to you? Who’s the first person you
want to tell?
Sabina Brennan 47:17
Who’s the first person you call
Mark Cagney 47:18
Who’s the first person you need? That’s the person you love
Sabina Brennan 47:21
Yes it’s a friendship. It really is. It’s ultimately about friendship and trust, and all those
things. And it was wonderful to hear as well that you know, when you were really
struggling, there was another individual who actually took you out. I was interested in one
thing you said he basically took you out and took you away and you went traveling with
him
Mark Cagney 47:40
Joe and Marian, Joe and Marian O’Herlihy, Marion would have been em. Well, I’ve known
Joe since I was 15. We started in bands together in Cork, he roadied for one band, I
roadied for another. So I’d known him on and off. He obviously has famously become one
of the best known sound engineers in the world because he’s been with U2 for 40 years.
He’s known as the big fat fellow with the beard. He looks like Grandpa Walton. Like he’s
legendary and rock and roll circles. Right. But his wife Marian, and Anne would have been
best friends. So like it’s the real cCork Murphya kind of thing, you know, so we would have
been in and out of each other’s houses. And actually that friendship has continued on but
you know, when when I rang Marian actually to tell her that that Anne was sick something
had happened and she was in The Meath and they live in Rathdown Park in Terenure But
Joe was away and Marian didn’t have the car. And she physically ran and I mean, ran
from Terenure to the Meath to get there in time. And I was following out in a taxi. And I
think she got there before I did. Or literally we pulled in as she was soaked in sweat. Yeah,
that’s the kind of, of friends
Sabina Brennan 48:45
you can talk about.You can talk about family till the cows come home when people say
blood is thicker than water, but the support of very real friends, you can’t underestimate it
Mark Cagney 48:53
well, you know that that really, it’s probably quite sexist, and it’s definitely not PC. But the
joke about a true friend is you ring them up and you say, Listen, I’m in real trouble. What
have you done? I’ve killed the wife. Okay, stay there. We’ll be around around with a shovel
as fast as we
Sabina Brennan 49:09
definitely not PC definitely, definitely not PC
Mark Cagney 49:11
But you know that, you know, those are the people who would take a bullet for you yet
stand in front of, you know, will throw themselves in front of a train for you like that. I was
lucky enough to have people like that in my life, Like Joe and Marian would definitely,
certainly at that stage without them. And again, we look even Peggy O’ Brien. She was
the house mother in 98 FM. And she would do that, you know, she would go he’s in trouble.
He needs a cup of tea. More importantly, he needs a hug. He needs somebody to hold on
to right now. And she would find an excuse asked me that I want a cups of tea, bring it in,
and then hug me until I kind of could speak properly or until I could do my next link
Sabina Brennan 49:45
You can’t underestimate the power of a human hug. living through this lockdown is why
it’s quite challenging for people but actual physical contact and a hug can lower your
blood pressure and actually really get your stress level. Stone really works. I’m afraid.
That’s all we have time for in this episode, but please do Tune in next week when I
continue my conversation with Mark. In the interim, you can check out the super brain
blog for bonus content. My name is Sabina Brennan. Thank you for listening to Super
brain, the podcast for everyone with a brain
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